'Spui că e obositor să fii alături de copii.Ai dreptate. Și adaugi: fiindcă trebuie să te cobori la nivelul lor, să te apleci, să te înclini, să te încovoiezi, să te faci mic. Aici însă greșești. Nu asta te obosește cel mai mult, ci faptul că ești obligat să te ridici la înălțimea sentimentelor lor. Să te întinzi, să te alungești, să te ridici pe vârfurile picioarelor. Ca să nu-i rănești.' Janusz Korczak

"Fie-vă dragi copiii, purtați-vă cu ei blând, învățați-i ce e de folos, fiți drepți și-ți vedea că nu-s sălbatici. Schimbați-le des ocupația, jucați-vă cu ei, căci între copii trebuie să fii și tu copil. Nu vă vărsați veninul amărăciunii voastre în sufletul copiilor, că-i păcat" (Ion Creangă)

"Cea mai bogata mostenire pe care parintii pot sa o lase copiilor este copilaria fericita, plina de amintiri tandre despre tatal si mama lor. Aceasta va lumina zilele care vin, ii va pazi de ispite si-i va ajuta in incercarile vietii de zi cu zi dupa ce vor parasi casa parinteasca.
Parintii trebuie sa fie asa cum vor sa-i vada pe copiii lor, ci nu cu vorba, ci cu fapta. Ei trebuie sa-si invete copiii prin exemplul vietii lor."
(Sfanta Mucenita Alexandra, Imparateasa Rusiei)


duminică, 31 iulie 2011

1-7 AUGUST, SAPTAMANA MONDIALA A ALAPTARII

Perioada 1-7 august este dedicata Saptamanii mondiale a alaptarii.
Nu putem participa la activitatile din Bucuresti, dar dam vestea mai departe.

De ce? Pentru ca, la 2 ani si 9 luni, continuam. Mai rar sau des, ziua sau/si noaptea, de sete sau de alint, de durere sau cu rasete. Si suntem fericiti, voiosi, senini, iubitori, uniti. Ni se potriveste si inca nu ne vedem renuntand.

David evolueaza exact asa cum mi-am dorit s-o faca, este copilul care incalca cu indarjire tiparele celor cu previziuni sumbre, care nu inteleg alaptarea prelungita, purtatul, co-sleeping-ul, educarea fara pedepse si tot ce presupune atasamentul. Asa ca mergem mai departe in acelasi stil.

Detalii despre Saptamana Mondiala a Alaptarii si cum este ea marcata in Bucuresti, gasiti pe blogul Mami, alapteaza-ma

miercuri, 27 iulie 2011

PENTRU TEODORA

Pe Teodora am cunoscut-o vara trecuta cand, singura fiind cu David, cautam orice prilej de intalnire cu copii mari si mici, pentru a ne umple timpul cu veselie si joaca.
Eram oarecum vecini si din vedere o stiam, dar intrasem rar in vorba cu ea inainte de a incepe sa ies la joaca cu David.

Avea trei ani si jumatate si era mereu in compania celor doua surori mai mari care o purtau peste tot, o plimbau cu bicicleta, alergau pe dealuri cu ea. Imi va ramane mereu in suflet trio-ul acesta minunat.

Ne-am jucat mult vara trecuta. Aproape in fiecare seara ne adunam pe ulita, iar copiii din zona se grupau in functie de varsta, discutii, jocuri, cu cei mici misunand printre ei. Ne-am jucat mult cu Teodora, sarind peste si prin balti, culegand pietricele. Ii placea sa-l alinte pe David si sa-l faca sa rada, iar de fiecare data cand trecea pe langa poarta noastra, il striga sau intreba de el

Am plecat apoi din Campulung si am hoinarit prin lume si prin tara. Cand ne-am intors, am regasit-o cumva stinghera, parca neincrezatoare ca vreau sa reluam jocurile, cumva intimidata de prezenta mea. Pana cand, saptamana trecuta, stand de vorba cu doua vecine, l-am lasat pe David sa se joace la o movila de nisip de pe ulita. La inceput timida, s-a apropiat si ea. Apoi s-a incins jocul si pana s-a intunecat s-au jucat cu picioarele goale in nisip. L-a alintat din nou pe David, asa cum facea vara trecuta si au ras impreuna. Imi fusese dor de ea, de zulufii ei vesnic ciufuliti si de ochii mari, de chipul ei poznas.


Ieri am vazut-o ultima data. Era imbracata in rochita alba, de ingeras, cu buclele aranjate cuminti in jurul chipului palid. Dormea, cu ochii usor intredeschisi, asa cum am inteles ca dormea mereu. Aceeasi ochi calzi care ne priveau chiar si de dincolo de viata, neindurandu-se, parca, sa se desparta de noi.

Pe chipul ei, insa, ramasese imprimata o expresie de calm si pace ca si cum ea, copila de patru ani si opt luni, ar fi inteles in ultima ei clipa de viata ceva ce noi nu vom intelege poate niciodata. Nu vom intelege de ce a trebuit sa plece. Durerea e prea mare si ne intuneca prea tare mintile si sufletele. Nu vedem clar si probabil nu vom reusi niciodata s-o facem.

Odihneste-te in pace, micuta Teodora!

MY VISION OF EDUCATION - OSHO

prima parte

MY VISION OF EDUCATION is that life should not be taken as a struggle for survival; life should be taken as a celebration. Life should not be only competition, life should be joy too. Singing and dancing and poetry and music and painting, and all that is available in the world-education should prepare you to fall in tune with it-with the trees, with the birds, with the sky, with the sun and the moon.

And education should prepare you to be yourself. Right now it prepares you to be an imitator; it teaches you how to be like others. This is miseducation. Right education will teach you how to be yourself, authentically yourself. You are unique. There is nobody like you, has never been, will never be. This is a great respect that God has showered on you. This is your glory, that you are unique. Don't become imitative, don't become carbon copies.

But that's what your so-called education goes on doing: it makes carbon copies; it destroys your original face. The word "education" has two meanings, both are beautiful. One meaning is very well known, although not practiced at all, that is: to draw something out of you. "Education" means: to draw out that which is within you, to make your potential actual, like you draw water from a well.

But this is not being practiced. On the contrary, things are being poured into you, not drawn out of you. Geography and history and science and mathematics, they go on pouring them into you. You become parrots. You have been treated like computers; just as they feed the computers, they feed you. Your educational institutions are places where things are crammed into your head.

Real education will be to bring out what is hidden in you-what God has put in you as a treasure-to discover it, to reveal it, to make you luminous.

And another meaning of the word, which is even far deeper: "education" comes from the word educare; it means to lead you from darkness to light. A tremendously significant meaning: to lead you from darkness to light. The Upanishads say, "Lord, lead us from untruth to truth"-"asato ma sadgamaya." "Lord, lead us from death to deathlessness", "mrityorma amritamgamaya." "Lord, lead us from darkness to light"-" tamaso ma jyotirgamaya." That is exactly the meaning of the word "education": tamaso ma jyotirgamayma--from darkness to light.

Man lives in darkness, in unconsciousness--and man is capable of becoming full of light. The flame is there; it has to be provoked. The consciousness is there, but it has to be awakened. You have been given all, you have brought it with you; but the whole idea that you have become a man just by having a human body is wrong, and that idea has been the cause of tremendous mischief down the ages.

sursa: What is real education? Osho - The Secret, Discourse 2

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vineri, 22 iulie 2011

MAN IS BORN AS A SEED

MAN IS BORN AS A SEED. He is born as a potentiality. He is not born as an actuality. And this is very special, this is extraordinary, because in the whole of existence only man is born as a potentiality; every other animal is born actual.

A dog is born as a dog, he is to remain the same his whole life. The lion is born as a lion. Man is not born as a man, man is born only as a seed: he may become, he may not become. Man has a future; no other animal has a future. All animals are born instinctively perfect. Man is the only imperfect animal. Hence growth, evolution, is possible.

Education is a bridge between the potentiality and the actuality. Education is to help you to become that which you are only in a seed form. And this is what I am doing here; this is a place of education. The thing that is being done in the ordinary schools and colleges and universities is not education. It only prepares you to get a good job, a good earning; it is not real education. It does not give you life. Maybe it can give you a better standard of living, but the better standard of living is not a better standard of life; they are not synonymous.

THE SO-CALLED EDUCATION that goes on in the world prepares you only to earn bread. Jesus says, "Man cannot live by bread alone." But that's what your universities have been doing-they prepare you to earn bread. In a better way, in an easier way, in a more comfortable way, with less effort, with less hardship-but all that they do is prepare you to earn your bread and butter. It is a very, very primitive kind of education: it does not prepare you for life.

Hence you see so many robots walking around. They are perfect as clerks, as stationmasters, as tax collectors. They are perfect, they are skillful, but if you look deep down in them they are just beggars and nothing else. They have not even tasted one bite of life. They have not known what life is, what love is, what light is. They have not known anything of God, they have not tasted anything of existence, they don't know how to sing and how to dance and how to celebrate. They don't know the grammar of life; they are utterly stupid. Yes, they earn-they earn more than others, they are very skillful and they go on rising higher and higher on the ladder of success-but deep down they remain empty, poor.

EDUCATION IS TO GIVE YOU inner richness. It is not just to make you more informed; that is a very primitive idea of education. I call it primitive because it is rooted in fear, rooted in that "If I am not well educated I will not be able to survive." I call it primitive because deep down it is very violent: it teaches you competition, it makes you ambitious. It is nothing but a preparation for a cut-throat, competitive world where everybody is the enemy of everybody else.

Hence the world has become a madhouse. Love cannot happen. How can love happen in such a violent, ambitious, competitive world where everybody is at each other's throat? This is very primitive because it is based in the fear that "If I am not well educated, well protected, highly informed, I may not be able to survive in the struggle of life. " It takes life only as a struggle.


sursa: What is real education? Osho - The Secret, Discourse 2

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marți, 19 iulie 2011

LET ME SIGN / NEVER THINK

initial nu mi-a placut cum canta.

Apoi am citit versurile si a inceput sa-mi placa.

Din pacate, pentru LET ME SIGN n-am gasit varianta audio integrala, ci doar bucatica de pe coloana sonora din Twilight.

LET ME SIGN


Let Me Sign- Robert Pattinson

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Oohh
Oohh
Standing there by the broken tree,
Her hands were all twisted, she was pointing at me.
I was damned by the light coming out of her eyes.
She spoke with a voice that disrupted the sky.
She said 'Walk on over yeah to the bit of shade,
I will wrap you in my arms and you'll know you've been saved'
Let me sign, let me sign, let me sign.


I was out for a drink in a soho bar
The air was smoked out liked a cheap cigar
She rose out of her seat like a painted ghost
She was the woman that I wanted the most
As she reached for my arm I gave her my hand
I said 'Lay me down easy let me understand'
Let me sign, let sign, let me sign.


As I walked through the door she was still in my head
As I entered the room she was laid there in bed
She reached out for me all twisted in black
I was on my way down, never coming back
let me sign, let me sign, can't fight the devil so just let me sign.
let me sign, let me sign, can't fight the devil so just let me sign.


NEVER THINK

Robert Pattinson - Never Think

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I should never think
What's in your heart
What's in our home
So I won't

You'll learn to hate me
But still call me baby
Oh love
So call me by my name

And save your soul
Save your soul
Before you're to far gone
Before nothing can be done

I'll try to decide when
She'll lie in the end
I ain't got no fight in me
In this whole damn world
So hold off
She should hold off
It's the one thing that I've known

Once I put my coat on
I'm coming out in this all wrong
She's standing outside holding me
Saying "Oh please,
I'm in love,
I'm in love!"

Girl save your soul
Go on save your soul
Before it's to far gone
And before nothing can be done

Cause without me
You got it all
So hold on
Without me you got it all
So hold on
Without me you got it all
Without me you got it all
So hold on
Without me you got it all
So hold on
Without me you got it all
So hold on.

duminică, 10 iulie 2011

AS FI VRUT SA FIU ACOLO...

In primavara lui 2001 eram la Padova. Prin toate marile magazine se vindeau bilete la concertul lui Bon Jovi. Nu stiu ce-a fost in capul meu atunci de am renuntat la concert. Nici macar nu costa asa de mult. De fapt, cred ca intr-un tarziu m-am hotarat sa merg, dar deja se vandusera toate biletele. Am regretat mult timp ca am ratat ocazia si n-a fost mare consolare ca l-am vazut cantand o melodie la Festivalbar, cateva zile mai tarziu.


Astazi am regretat putin ca nu-l pot lasa pe David la bunici o zi si o noapte, ca sa pot face drumul pana la Bucuresti. Pentru prima data in 2 ani si 8 luni, mi-as fi dorit sa nu fiu atat de legata de el, sa nu depinda atat de mine.


Cred ca este singurul concert de pana acum la care chiar mi-as fi dorit sa ajung. Pentru ca il iubesc pe Jon Bon Jovi de cand l-am auzit prima data si de fiecare data cand il ascult, aproape ca uit sa mai respir.